Children need to feel secure and understand their place in the world. If a child feels too powerful or is not taught to control their impulses, they may develop an unrealistic sense of entitlement. For instance, if a child isn't stopped from hitting a sibling, they may grow up thinking they can control others to meet their needs. This can lead to manipulative and coercive behaviors in adulthood.
Practical Tips for Parents
- Promote Individuality: Encourage your child to see themselves as a separate person from their mother.
- Set Reasonable Limits: Establish boundaries on your child’s behavior early on.
- Praise Appropriately: Praise your child for specific, earned achievements rather than constantly telling them they are special.
- Teach Right from Wrong: Help your child develop a strong moral compass.
- Temper Emotions: Guide your child in feeling and expressing emotions without being overwhelmed.
- Build Resilience: Teach your child to handle frustrations and delays in getting what they want.
- Encourage Independence: Help your child find joy in doing things on their own.
- Foster Empathy: Teach your child to consider other people’s viewpoints.
- Value Kindness: Emphasize the importance of honesty and kindness.
- Discourage Entitlement: Address entitled attitudes and behaviors early on.
- Teach Sharing: Discuss the importance of sharing and not being greedy.
- Avoid Perfectionism: Don’t insist on perfection or winning at all costs.
By focusing on these principles, you can help your child develop a healthy sense of self and avoid the pitfalls of narcissism as they grow into adulthood.
This content is borrowed from the book "Are You Living with a Narcissist" by Laurie Hollman.
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